I have self-worth issues. Those who know me well know that very well. Funnily, some interpret it as humility. Not so. I think we all--even arrogant people--agree that being humble is a great attribute, but it's not a very easy one to adopt. Again, I am not humble.
I always think of myself as intellectually superior to most people. Now, if you feel offended, it means that you think you're stupid. You really shouldn't. I believe intelligence is what you make it out to be. We all have brains (don't we?) and, therefore, we all have an equal opportunity. I am not really arrogant, but I sometimes "catch" myself thinking that someone (or a whole group of someones) is stupid. Stupidity is a trait acquired by choice.
So, I don't believe that intelligence can be quantified. IQ tests make no sense to me whatsoever. I might take a test today and score upward of 130, and score much lower on the same test one year from now. Trust me, I've tried. Besides, these tests make me feel like a lab rat. I hate labs and I hate rats.
Now, as I said, I am smarter than most, but that doesn't mean that most can't be smarter. What I am good at (which is not really a good thing) is that I can, in a sense, control my intelligence. (Can't we all?) Let me explain. When dealing with the "general public", I use language and thinking processes that make sense to those people. It has to be a perfect match. Otherwise, I'm perceived as either arrogant or stupid--I've been called both on different occasions. The smarter the person I'm conversing with is, the smarter I sound and think. When I find someone whose intelligence is close or similar to mine, that's when I feel comfortable: I talk in whichever way I want, I use my own lexis and accent, and I get a sense of connecting--something I strive for.
Sometimes I feel like I have personalities that are as numerous as the types of people I deal with. This is not OK, but it's how I protect myself form people. I know it might not make sense.
Adopting people's attitudes doesn't get me closer to them since it entails hiding the real me where they can't get.